#MADMlinkup: Words Matter

MADM-Circle-FinalI am really bad at negative self-talk. Or, maybe I’m really good at it? Now I’ve confused myself. I’m an expert at talking negatively about myself. What I realized this weekend, however, was that sometimes all you can do is believe in yourself just a little bit more than you have before.

On Saturday, I did my first (and mostly likely only) 1/2 marathon. A dear friend convinced me to sign up. I did. And then winter was hard and we didn’t train like we should and suddenly it was April. And my April tried to kill me. So, I didn’t go into the weekend feeling prepared at all. Instead, I went into it with a little bit of dread. I wasn’t sure what to expect. I knew I wouldn’t hit the goals I had set for myself when I first signed up. I knew I wouldn’t get the time I wanted. I knew we wouldn’t move as fast as we should have. I knew it would be one of the hardest things I had ever done.

It turns out I was right on all accounts.

we did it
Jenni and I at the finish line. I could be negative. I’m choosing to be positive!

What does this have to do with my Make a Difference Monday posts, you ask? Well, here’s the thing I also learned this weekend – at about mile 9 when all I wanted to do was give up:

I cannot make a difference in the world if I don’t believe in myself.
I cannot continue
to try to inspire people to be the change and light in their worlds when I do not believe I can be the same in mine.
I cannot encourage those I love while silently discouraging myself
.

The negative words I speak to myself about myself have to stop. There is a lot to change in my world. There is a lot that I would like to change about myself. There is a lot that needs to change. But I have to stop talking about myself in ways that I would never talk about other people. I need to learn to see myself through the eyes of the people who don’t see my flaws first. I need to love myself. And by loving myself I can better love my world.

So, that’s how I want¬† you to make a difference this week. Every time you think about saying something negative about yourself, stop. See yourself like the people who love you see you. See yourself like God sees you.¬† Be brave! Be strong! Be vulnerable! Believe!

Do you need help getting rid of your negative self-talk? Check out The Gift of Imperfection by Brene Brown. It requires a lot of honesty on your part to do it well. But it’s so worth it.

Love,

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12 Comments

  1. You speak much truth here. If we could all just get out of our own way. That is definitely one of the things I am learning on this writing journey of mine. Sp proud of you for following through with this. It’s an incredible accomplishment, and this Monday linkup you’re doing is a good fit for you!

  2. You speak much truth here. If we could all just get out of our own way. That is definitely one of the things I am learning on this writing journey of mine. Sp proud of you for following through with this. It’s an incredible accomplishment, and this Monday linkup you’re doing is a good fit for you!

  3. You speak much truth here. If we could all just get out of our own way. That is definitely one of the things I am learning on this writing journey of mine. Sp proud of you for following through with this. It’s an incredible accomplishment, and this Monday linkup you’re doing is a good fit for you!

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