Why is it so much harder for people to give compliments than it is for them to complain? I have a very hard time with this concept – and, quite frankly, it makes me angry most of the time. And the saddest part? I often see it the most when it comes to church people. The people that are supposed to be slow to anger and quick to love often seem to get it backward – they are slow to love and quick to anger – and quicker to complain about things they don’t like.
It’s exhausting and it’s something I deal with on a weekly basis. And, because I know how much it frustrates other people, I keep some of those complaints – especially the horribly rude and almost cruel ones – to myself. Which may not be healthy and may not even be right, I admit, but it’s what I do. Why burden the people I care about with more complaints about the same old things all the time? Why make them angry when I can prevent it (even though I know their anger isn’t toward me)?
It may be hypocritical for me to complain about people complaining. I can’t put my finger around that concept – but it’s more hypocritcal (at least to me) to put on your church face and pretend to be all nice and caring, then write anonymous notes, letters, and complaints. I know people are not for me to judge and I know if I KNEW who some of these people are, I would be astounded at their reactions to things that don’t matter in the long run, but as it is, I am just really annoyed at the whole thing.
Right now my struggle is with how to handle the complainers, because if I’m honest, I’m running really low on grace and patience toward them today.
I just wish, instead of people whining and complaining and being negative, they would take the time to see how much love, heart, and work goes into things. Instead of hating change, they would realize that the world is constantly changing. Instead of complaining about things just because it’s in THEIR church, I wish they would see how new ideas can impact GOD’s church.
And, honestly, I wish they would spend less time worrying about the stupid stuff and more time worrying about things that actually matter to more than just them, their friends, and those that hate to see anything new or different in the church.
Today, I’m tired of it.
Tomorrow, who knows?